When someone hurts us we are faced with a choice. Concentrate our minds and thoughts on the offensive words we have received or let go. If we decide to continue thinking about the offense received, we will not be able to escape the stress and frustrations that derive from it, as a result, we will become increasingly vulnerable.
The alternative choice will be to forgive the other person, remembering that we are all made of light and love and that we can all make mistakes. Forgiveness represents the conscious choice to turn the page and look beyond guilt.
When we forgive others, we automatically forgive ourselves. In fact, if we no longer focus on the mistakes of others, we will also stop punishing ourselves for our mistakes. Forgiveness lets go of the pain of the past and open infinite possibilities to the future.
Here are some simple steps to learn to forgive
Let it go
The best thing we can do when someone offends or hurts us is to let go. Learning to let go takes time, because our brain is used to mulling over the offenses received and seeking explanations and arguments in our favor.
Under these circumstances, it can be helpful to free the mind of negative thoughts through meditation. Over time you will become more and more able to let go and even a few minutes of meditation will be enough to find serenity.
Think about the pros and cons
What makes you feel good?
Constantly thinking about what hurts you or forgiving the other person, freeing yourself from pain and turning the page?
By evaluating the pros and cons of the situation, the choice will be very simple.
Put yourself in the other's shoes
Always assume that no living being is bad, always try to understand the reasons that led another person to behave in a certain way. Everyone happens to make mistakes. Instead of pointing your finger, try to understand what prompted the other to do or say something. This does not mean justifying others for incorrect behavior, but it can help you turn the page and forget.
Focus on the present
The past is past and cannot be changed, it can only continue to live in your mind. Concentrate on the present, on the activities you are doing, on all the beautiful things that life has given you and enjoy the joy of the present.
Let peace enter within you
By concentrating on your breathing, let the light enter you and allow peace to enter your life. When the painful memories of the past linked to offenses received present themselves at the door of your mind .... close your eyes inhale and exhale deeply.
As you breathe in, visualize a beautiful white light as it enters you, filling your heart and whole body with light and love, exhaling, visualizing the pain of the past as it leaves your body.
Forgiving is an act of love first of all towards yourself and then towards others because with forgiveness you are not authorizing others to harm you again, but you are freeing your life from resentment and hatred.
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